Yes I am one of those minority weirdo’s that actually loved labour. Some of my friends would probably say I took it too far but here’s how burning my toes, getting festive and staring at the light switch got me through a drug free labour.
Still sceptical about how hypnobirthing could see me through labour, as my pregnancy aches and pains grew so did my desperation to try anything for just a little relief. I found daydreaming about holding our little bundle together with a I will get through this attitude got me through the long days towards the end. I attended a weekly yoga group that helped me focus on my breathing and I still had my acupuncture sessions which if nothing else give me a hours sleep. The thought of labour scared me and I was almost encouraged to have a C-section but to me that was me using my disability as a excuse.
Over the weeks the urge to have the most natural labour possible was more appealing and I even signed up to have my placenta encapsulated so I could eat it, said to help milk flow, weight loss and bonding. Pregnancy had really changed me, the love I had and the desire to protect the baby who was giving me those tiny little kicks was overwhelming.
From 36 weeks pregnant I started to prepare my body for labour, there was no way I was going over my due date. Apart from sex which needed a mathematical equation due to my size and pain, I tried every wife’s tale under the sun. With the baby engaged and with the green light from the Midwife I started with 6 dates a day. Yes I said dates they are said to relax and lubricant your cervix, due to the time of year the shops were stocked up on the festive delights. I stuck to plain dates but the odd marzipan or pistachio stuffed date was a real treat.
At 39 weeks I let my acupuncture dr burn my little toes with some kind of Chinese cigar type stick, it was meant to induce labour. I also took raspberry leaf tea capsules and cod liver oil pills as well as eating the hottest curry I could find and spending my evenings bouncing on the ball. I was a herbalists dream!
You may be chuckling and to be honest even writing it I sound crazy but 2 days before my due date and after my 3rd sweep followed by a drive along a bumpy road I felt very uncomfortable and teary. I opted for a early night and at 4am labour started. Rather than being scared I was relieved that I would have my baby very soon.
I stayed in bed, kept our bedroom as dark as possible and stared at the light switch for the next 6 hours intermittently mooing like daisy the cow in-between snuggly naps with dave and the dogs, who didn’t leave my side. A home visit from the Midwife confirming I was in labour, she reminded me of my hypnobirthing techniques which had me set until around 7pm. Nothing seemed urgent or frantic, I was reasonably comfortable just staring at the silver mirrored light switch allowing my body’s urges to push and breath.
With contractions getting closer together I decided it was time for hospital but not before applying full makeup between each contraction, with dave turning the light on and off so I could get through each contraction in the dark as I wanted. The rest of the time in hospital was a bit of a blur but I got through the rest of the delivery by using all my hypnobirthing techniques, I took a light up cube which kept my focus. I did have a little gas and air at 9cm, with my waters breaking matrix style at 3am, I delivered our daughter completely naturally at 313am on her due date, just shy of 24 hours in labour.
What happened next was all so quick but this is me, I’d delivered a beautiful healthy baby with no complications, to good to be true? As the midwife allowed dave to weigh our new addition I saw panic on her face and felt extremely wet. I’d opted for a natural placenta delivery without the use of the injection this process could take up to a hour however as it was being guided out my umbilical cord retracted back into my womb and the placenta was stuck causing me to haemorrhage. I was rushed to surgery and my placenta was manually removed together with needing a blood transfusion.
As a result of this I had to stay in hospital for 4 days with extreme swelling. As much as I wanted to be at home with my new family I appreciated the extra support from the hospital Midwife’s and carers. They let dave stay the whole time and we had a private room because of my disability, which was a godsend. I was exhausted and overwhelmed, I needed him and he was my rock.
I never did get to have my placenta encapsulated because of the way it was removed but all that mattered was I was ok and I had a healthy baby who entered the world perfectly without secondary drug side effects in her.
I may have been a bit neurotic trying alternative therapies but Audrey was born on her due date with a comfortable natural delivery. I definitely believe there is something true about the wife’s tales and alternative treatments. Without a doubt I would recommend trying these risk free techniques even if it is to enjoy a few dates at Christmas and a takeaway curry at the weekend. Our light switches will forever be a talking point in our house!